Obviously there is no perfect marriage because it is a union of two imperfect people. But as I reflect on 35 years of marriage, I can confidently say that I could not have asked for a more “perfectly” suited partner. I’m so very thankful for a godly, loving man who is fully aware of all my faults but chooses to give grace instead of criticism and always encourages me to aspire to all that I can be. He is not threatened by acting as my cheerleader, as I have been his.
From the early days of being very young newlyweds to the birth of our 3 treasured children and the devastating diagnosis and eventual death of our precious Jessica, our marriage has grown stronger. He has remained steady as we have weathered cancer, chronic illness, multiple ministry challenges and moves, joblessness, and financial stresses. These are the normal trials of life and marriage but I am so grateful for a husband who has done his very best to look to God to fill him with wisdom, bountiful patience, faith, persistence and love, knowing that his own resources would never be enough to overcome those trials. I love his peaceful spirit, his gift of faith, and his incredible humility; something rarely seen in someone who is so very talented. I love that he uses that talent to glorify God and to share his faith. I love that he is a servant-leader and that he helps people accomplish things beyond their level of confidence because he instills his own confidence in their potential. I have witnessed this over and over again in our home life and in his ministry. I’m thankful that he has been diligent in balancing home and ministry life so that our family has never felt that the church took priority over our needs. I love that we can laugh together when one of us says or does something really stupid, feeling no judgment or embarrassment. Taking bike rides, watching football or movies, singing together or long trips in the car are ordinary things that become much more than ordinary because I’m doing them with my very best friend. As we celebrate 35 years together, I am the most thankful that God is the center strand in the cord of our marriage and has been a strong rope to hold on to as we’ve wrapped our lives around Him.
“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NLT)